How to Always Find a Silver Lining in a Shitty Situation
Is Eeyore your middle name?
Do you struggle to find the silver lining in a shitty situation?
Girrrl, I know some days straight up SUCK! However, you don't have to be an Eeyore and bring others down around you because you'd rather look at a shitty situation and only see the problem versus seeing the silver lining.
Listen, I totally get that some days you just want to bitch and moan. Once in a while is ok! I mean it's your prerogative. But wouldn't you rather find the silver lining?
I know I do!
How do you find the silver lining when the shit hits the fan?
Change Your Situation
You have the power to change your situation. Yup, girlfriend, you do. It all starts with a thought in yo’ pretty little head. From there you can squash that negative thought or what I have heard they’re called NATS (negative automatic thoughts). Squash those NATS like I have to do here in Wisconsin during the summer. Haha!
Those negative thoughts don’t’ serve you. They disempower you and make you feel like you’re worthless, less than, not good enough, and more.
Why would anyone ever want to feel like that?
Eeyore was not meant to be played in real life. He was meant to stay a fictional character from your childhood.
Therefore, the moment the NAT comes swarming in, think positively. Take the negative statement and turn into a positive statement of truth. Say a power phrase or an affirmation. Do whatever works for you, but squash it before it infests more negative thoughts into your brain!
Find the Lesson
It can totally suck when the shit hits the fan, and there are times you're probably wondering why me or WTF. Right?
It can be difficult to humble yourself in spite of the humility and find the lesson you were meant to learn. The lesson can be hard to swallow. However, the only way to grow is to is learn from our past “failures”, challenges, or experiences.
Growth can’t happen while inside of your comfort zone. Embrace the feeling of being uncomfortable. Humble yourself that you’re not perfect and you make a mistake. Learn from it and don’t make the same mistake again.
The way I see it is that you were meant to mess up to learn and grow. Leverage it! Use it to your advantage to live a kick-ass life!
Want to ditch the Eeyore persona and live a kick-ass life? Take a look at this related blog post: How to Live a Kick-Ass Life!
When life hands you lemons, grab some limes and salt and make a margarita!
Life isn't always going to be rainbows and unicorns. There are days it's going to be hard as hell! However, it doesn’t have to be that way. You don’t have to feel like shit because of a shitty situation. You can take back your power and start to feel better about the shitty situation.
As difficult as it may be, look for the blessings that surround you. Find gratitude in the shitty situation or in what you have. There’s always something to be grateful for. Sometimes we have to stop and smell the roses so that we can take a look around at how amazing our life really is.
Listen, ONE shitty situation or even a series of shitty circumstances do NOT define you. They don’t symbolize your worth. Don’t let one moment in time break you down. You’re too beautiful to let a shitty situation bring you down. Yell, cry, piss, and moan. Do what you need to do for a brief moment and then move on.
Be grateful, find the blessing, and forgive what happened. Move on.
If you’re struggling to forgive then try a forgiveness technique that I learned from Denise Duffield-Thomas. Take a notebook and write down all of the items that you're blaming others or yourself for. Make a list. From there one by one, say this: "I forgive you. I'm sorry. I love you." Once you say the phrase, cross it off your list if you aren’t emotionally triggered by it after you have done the forgiveness technique then move on to the next. Keep doing this each day until none of those past experiences trigger you emotionally.
Ditching the Eeyore persona is possible. The change starts with YOU! It starts with your thoughts because your thoughts are POWERFUL! Change your thoughts, change your reality.
Share in the comments below: What is your favorite tip for finding the silver lining in any shitty situation?