How to Live a Kick Ass Life!
Are you tired of feeling like a damn hamster on a wheel?
Frustrated that your life feels meaningless, hopeless, and unfulfilled?
I've been there, and it's a total shit show until you get your poop in a group. Can you feel me?
Why is it that we, as women, often feel so used, unfulfilled, hopeless, or that our lives are meaningless?
Well, girlfriend, it's time for an effing reality check! As women, we wear multiple hats in a day. At the drop of a second, we're expected to be a Mom, a wife, a daughter, sister, aunt, cousin, employee, or a boss. It's so damn exhausting.
Hell, I wish I was a dude! Maybe then I could feel like less of a hot mess. I don't know about you, but doesn't it always seem like men have it so easy? Maybe it's because they're wired differently than women, but why do we have to be so high strung?
Are you ready to live a kick-ass life and start feeling like you've got your crap together?
Here are seven ways that YOU can start living a KICK-ASS life, TODAY!
Manage the Noise in Your Pretty Little Head
First things first, tell the biotch in your head to take a seat. You don't have time for her drama, negative comments, or pissy attitude. Legit, you better check yourself before you wreck yourself!
Get your crap together! Stop telling yourself LIES! Stop the BULLSHIT! Turn down the noise in your head but implementing a mindset routine that you can be consistent with.
WTF is mindset? In a nutshell, it's the set of beliefs in which you use as a compass for your life. These beliefs are based on what your family taught you. Influence of friends, co-workers, bosses, etc. Every person we interact with has the power to shape us into who we are and unconsciously formulate beliefs that we live by. Pretty cray, right?
Therefore, mindset is the bomb! Get it in check before it gets out of control. Here are some mindset tasks that you could do to help shift your mindset from poop to spectacular are:
- journal writing
The choices are endless. The point is, find something that works for you and get your crap together.
Stop the Fricken People Pleasing
Are you always there for everyone and feel like a doormat? Well, why are you letting it happen? What does that say about you if you let others treat you like shit?
Trust me; I get it. We ALL want to be liked. Be here's a #truthbomb for you: YOU AREN'T MEANT TO PLEASE EVERYONE. You ARE the PRIORITY!
You have one life to live. What the hell are you trying to live it for everyone else?
Say, NO, to the things that aren't serving you positively! Stop doing the crap that you don't want to do. Trust me; you'll feel 1,000% better when you finally tell everyone to shove it and start living YOUR life.
Will it feel scary at first? Hell, to the yeah, it will. However, it's so damn freeing to say no to the things that don't serve you without having any guilt. You are #powerful!
Check the Drama at the Door
If you want to live a kick-ass life, then it's time to kick the crappy friends and maybe even some family to the curb. You can't honestly expect to live your life to the fullest when you're surrounded by people who don't support or love you in any way shape or form.
The drama-filled biotches who bring the Jerry Springer show to you in real life. Ditch 'em!
The broke ass biotches who always complain they don't have money but have no problem shelling out money for luxury items they can't afford. Ditch 'em!
The complainer, Eeyore, type biotches who swear they have a black cloud over their head 24/7. Ditch 'em!
It's time to get rid of the dead weight and make room for the people who love, accept, and support you 100%.
Jim Rohn said, "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with." So, do you want it to be drama-filled, broke as a joke, complainers all up in your lady business? Mmm, no!
Stop Giving an Eff about what Other People Think
Dude, like seriously? Who gives a shit what other people have to say about you?
Les Brown said, "Someone's opinion of you does not have to become your reality." It's their damn opinion! We're all entitled to our opinions, but does that mean it's our reality? EFF NO!
Listen, you were born to do great things but if you're constantly worried about what other people think, say, or react to what you do; well, you're going to continue to be miserable AF. #realtalk
Perhaps you should ask yourself this, what does their opinion say about you? Why does it matter to you?
I encourage you to put the emphasis and importance on your HAPPINESS! You're the priority here and not some dumb ass bullshit by some tool that doesn't even really know you. Let's be honest here for a second, NO ONE and I mean NO ONE knows you better than YOU. Not your Mama, your Daddy or even your hubs. YOU know yourself better than anyone else, and you know what you're capable of.
STOP walking on eggshells and START living your damn life!
Ready to stop giving an eff about what other people think? Read the related blog post: How to Stop Giving an Eff About What Other People Think.
Stand up for what You Believe in
Girrrrl, I know you ain't trying to be a chameleon so that you can blend in with the crowd. WTF good is that going to do?
Better yet, why in the hell are you trying to dim your light when you were made to shine bright like a damn 20-carat diamond?
Stop that crap!
Grow some balls and stand up for the shit that you believe in. Stop trying to blend in, be liked, and not rock the boat. What the hell is that going to do for you? Anything?
Nah... only thing it'll do is keep you MISERABLE?
Why do you want to be miserable? I don't know about you, but I want to live a kick-ass life that I love!
No matter how difficult it may be, use your voice and stand up for the shit that you're passionate about.
Don't let people walk all over you.
Don't let people force you to dim your light.
Don't let people make you feel inferior.
Eleanor Roosevelt said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Therefore, STOP giving people the POWER to make you feel inferior by trying to be a chameleon so that you can blend in.
You were born to stand out! Just do it!
Own Your Shit and Take Responsibility for Your Life
For the love of Pete, stop trying to blame others for your past mistakes, difficult life, or hell even your misery. Own your shit! You're in the driver seat of your life. Not Joe Schmoe or Susy Q. It's Y-O-U!
It's time to wake the hell up, put your big girl panties on, and own up to the crap you've done in your past. Better yet, STOP living in the past! If you were to look back at all the crap that you're blaming others for, who's the common denominator in each situation? It's YOU!
Therefore, forgive yourself and others for the mistakes. Two wrongs, don't make a right. Get over it. Move on. Life is too short to be living in the past and living with regrets. Make the decision that starting today, you're going to own your it and start doing the things that matter. You're living for the future, not for the past.
Here's a simple exercise for you to do, take a notebook and write down all of the items that you're blaming others for. Make a list, and I don't care if it's a two or two thousand. Right, that crap down. From there one by one, say this: "I forgive you. I'm sorry. I love you." A little something, I learned from the best-selling other of Get Rich, Lucky Bitch, Denise Duffield-Thomas. Once you say the phrase, cross it off your list and move on to the next. Keep doing this each day until none of those past experiences trigger you emotionally.
It's time to move on girl, so get your LIFE together!
Do the Shit that Lights You the Hell up
Let me ask you this, are you pursuing your passions? Are you doing what you LOVE?
If not, well, um why the hell not?
I probably sound like a broken record here, but why do you feel the constant need to be miserable?
I just don't get it!
Do the crap that excites you! The stuff that you could spend hours doing and not even realize any time has passed. Do it! Those passions or unique gifts that you have are YOURS. They're unique to you and by not using them or sharing them with others means you're robbing them of your gifts.
You, naughty girl, you!
Start doing things that you enjoy doing.
Love to exercise? Get up early to fit it into your day.
Love to paint, craft or do other arts? Designate time for these passions or join a club.
Love to teach? Volunteer or get a part-time teaching gig.
The world is your oyster!
Stop trying to do what others tell you to do and start doing what lights you up!
>>> Queue Frozen....Let it Go! Let it Go! <<<
At the end of the day, you have no one but yourself to blame for not living a kick-ass life! Harsh? Perhaps. However, you have what it takes to make the changes so that you can legit STOP feeling so miserable and START living a kick-ass life, TODAY!
In the comments below: What is one way you're going to start living a kick-ass life?